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When You’re the Only One Trying
(And How to Keep Going Without Losing Yourself)
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
How to Keep Going When the Turning Point Feels Invisible
Quiet Courage, Steady Steps, and the Slow Work of Change
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
The Turning Point No One Sees
Why Real Change in Marriage Often Starts Underground
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
"Is There Still Hope for Us?"
How to Know if Your Marriage Can Be Saved… And What to Do If You're the Only One Trying
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD

July 2025

Finding Your Anchor in the Storm
Why Emotional Grounding Matters When Your Marriage Feels Like It’s Drifting
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Why You Feel Like You’re Doing All the Work (And What to Do About It)
There’s a unique kind of pain that comes with trying to save a marriage by yourself.
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Chasing Connection Will Push It Further Away
Why your pursuit isn’t bringing you closer… and what to do instead
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Hope Lost, Hope Found
Building hope, even if your spouse has lost it
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD

June 2025

Change Rule #1: Accept What Is (Before You Can Change It)
Acceptance isn’t surrender. It’s the starting point for transformation.
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Repair Is a Practice
Why Small, Value-Driven Actions Can Heal Even Deep Relationship Hurts
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
When You Don’t Know What to Do, Start With Principles
Why it’s better to be grounded than clever, especially when the stakes are high
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
When You’re the Only One Trying
Why one person can begin the change in a struggling marriage
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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