Archive - The Connection Compass

Compass Issue #22 — Love Is a Direction, Not a Destination

Many people think love is something you either feel or you don’t.

Jul 16 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Dive Partners: Why Autonomy and Connection Were Never Actually Opposites

I hear a version of this constantly: “I love my marriage, but I feel like I’m losing myself in it.” And right behind it, from the other side of the same…

Jul 12 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #21 — Choose Connection

When a marriage is hurting, it’s easy to believe that connection is something you either have...

Jul 10 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

June 2026

Compass Issue #20 — Becoming the Partner You Want to Be

When people begin trying to save their marriage, they often focus on changing the relationship.

Jun 30 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

That Attachment Style Quiz Won't Save Your Marriage

… but it might keep you stuck!

Jun 28 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #19 — Looking Forward Together

It’s difficult to build a better marriage if every conversation is about what has already happened.

Jun 26 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

What It Feels Like When a Marriage Starts to Turn Around

Nobody tells you what to look for.

Jun 21 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #18 — Becoming Teammates Again

One of the quietest changes in a struggling marriage is that couples stop feeling like they’re on the same side.

Jun 18 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

The Problem Isn't That You're Fighting. It's How.

Most people in a struggling marriage say some version of the same thing.

Jun 14 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #17 — Protecting Your Marriage From Drift

Most marriages don’t fall apart because of one dramatic event.

Jun 11 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

When Therapy Fails You (And You Think You Failed Therapy)

She did everything right.

Jun 7 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #16 — Creating New Relationship Patterns

Many marriages don’t struggle because of one big mistake.

Jun 4 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

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