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What’s Happening Inside the Person Who's Out
(And Why Understanding It Matters)
Nov 6
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
5
Two Voices, One Choice
Navigating Self-Talk in Marriage Crisis
Nov 2
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
4
October 2025
The Superpower That Saves Marriages
(And the Trait That Keeps Them Stuck)
Oct 29
•
Lee H. Baucom, PhD
5
From “What Did I Do?” to “What’s Going On?”
The Three-Step Path Out of Personalization
Oct 26
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
4
The Personalization Trap
Why We Make Everything About Us (And How It’s Killing Connection)
Oct 23
•
Lee H. Baucom, PhD
2
Why AI Can’t Save Your Marriage (And Might Make It Worse)
You’re lying in bed next to your spouse, both of you on your phones.
Oct 19
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
2
Are You Solving or Just Blaming? Moving Beyond Crisis Management in Your Marriage
They sit on opposite ends of my couch, bodies angled away from each other, arms crossed.
Oct 16
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
3
Why Apologizing for the Fight Doesn’t Fix Your Marriage: First-Order vs. Second-Order Change
Picture this: A husband who has a pattern of explosive anger.
Oct 12
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
5
The Real Problem Isn’t the Fight: Understanding Active Failures and Latent Conditions in Marriage
I was listening to a podcast recently about pickleball — yes, I’ve joined the legions of middle-aged people chasing a wiffle ball around a court and…
Oct 9
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
3
When Stuck Becomes a Choice (Even If You Don’t Realize It)
The Comfortable Trap of “Just Stuck”
Oct 5
•
Lee H. Baucom, PhD
1
Navigation Tools for Marriage: Moving from “Why” to “What Now”
Breaking free from the blame cycle and charting a course toward connection
Oct 2
•
Lee H. Baucom, PhD
3
September 2025
Choosing Your Way to Persevere: An Action Menu for When You Feel Like Giving Up
When life gets hard — and when marriage feels impossible — most advice collapses into clichés: “Hang in there.” “Try harder.” “Don’t give up.”
Sep 28
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
3
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