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Are You Solving or Just Blaming? Moving Beyond Crisis Management in Your Marriage
They sit on opposite ends of my couch, bodies angled away from each other, arms crossed.
Oct 16
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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Why Apologizing for the Fight Doesn’t Fix Your Marriage: First-Order vs. Second-Order Change
Picture this: A husband who has a pattern of explosive anger.
Oct 12
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
4
The Real Problem Isn’t the Fight: Understanding Active Failures and Latent Conditions in Marriage
I was listening to a podcast recently about pickleball — yes, I’ve joined the legions of middle-aged people chasing a wiffle ball around a court and…
Oct 9
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
2
When Stuck Becomes a Choice (Even If You Don’t Realize It)
The Comfortable Trap of “Just Stuck”
Oct 5
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
1
Navigation Tools for Marriage: Moving from “Why” to “What Now”
Breaking free from the blame cycle and charting a course toward connection
Oct 2
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
3
September 2025
Choosing Your Way to Persevere: An Action Menu for When You Feel Like Giving Up
When life gets hard — and when marriage feels impossible — most advice collapses into clichés: “Hang in there.” “Try harder.” “Don’t give up.”
Sep 28
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
3
The Hidden Dangers of Marriage Therapy: Why 75% of Couples End Up Divorced (And What Actually Works Instead)
A recovering therapist’s honest take on why the industry’s “gold standard” might be setting your marriage up for failure
Sep 25
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
15
The Myth of "Two-Way Street": Why Waiting for Your Spouse Will Keep You Stuck
“Marriage is a two-way street.”
Sep 23
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
6
The Blame Game: When to Own It and When to Let It Go
Breaking free from the cycles that keep couples stuck in the past
Sep 18
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
2
Breaking Out of the Pause Button Marriage: What You Can Control When Your Spouse Won't Change
How one person can revive a struggling marriage...
Sep 15
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
3
The One Word That's Destroying Your Relationship
(And the Simple Fix That Changes Everything)
Sep 11
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
When Love Hurts: Why It’s Not Personal (Even When It Feels Like It Should Be)
How to protect your heart without disconnecting from the people you care about most
Sep 8
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
5
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