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What Romance Gets Wrong About Love (And One Thing It Gets Right)
Romance stories are genuinely good at something.
Apr 26
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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Compass Issue #10 — Listening Without Defending
When your spouse says something difficult, the instinct is often to explain, correct, or defend yourself.
Apr 23
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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Calming or Calm ME
When Communication Is Headed in the Wrong Direction
Apr 19
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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Compass Issue #9 — The Curiosity Shift
When a marriage feels strained, it’s easy to assume you know what your spouse is thinking.
Apr 16
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
If You're the Only One Trying, Read This
You’re still here.
Apr 12
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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Compass Issue #8 — Rebuilding Positive Moments
After everything you’ve tried, it can feel like the only way forward is to have the right conversation.
Apr 9
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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You Might Be Angrier Than You Think
Here’s a question worth sitting with for a moment: when is the last time you said, out loud or even to yourself, “I am angry”?
Apr 5
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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Compass Issue #7 — The Appreciation Reset
In many struggling marriages, appreciation quietly disappears.
Apr 2
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
March 2026
When Apathy Moves In (And Why It’s More Dangerous Than Conflict)
In a marriage crisis, most people are afraid of the wrong thing.
Mar 29
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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Compass Issue #6 — Emotional Safety Comes First
Many people try to rebuild connection in their marriage by talking things through.
Mar 26
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
2
Why Your Spouse Has Gone Quiet (And What It Actually Means)
There’s a particular cruelty to silence.
Mar 22
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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Compass Issue #5 — The Pressure Cycle
When a marriage feels uncertain, many people try harder to fix it.
Mar 19
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Lee H. Baucom, PhD
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