Archive - The Connection Compass

Compass Issue #25 — The Journey You’re On

When you’re in the middle of trying to save your marriage, it’s easy to focus on what still isn’t where you want it to be.

Aug 6 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

The Most Dangerous Word in Marriage Isn’t “Divorce.” It’s “Eventually.”

Nobody’s marriage has ever been destroyed by the word divorce. By the time that word shows up, it’s not causing anything. It’s just naming what already…

Aug 2 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

July 2026

Compass Issue #24 — Guarding Your Connection

Most marriages don’t lose connection because people stop caring.

Jul 30 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Your Marriage Isn’t Falling Apart Overnight — You’re Finally Seeing It

David remembers the exact sentence.

Jul 26 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #23 — Creating a Culture of Connection

Every marriage has a culture.

Jul 23 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Lost Is Not the Problem

When I was younger, I raced with two other guys in adventure races.

Jul 19 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #22 — Love Is a Direction, Not a Destination

Many people think love is something you either feel or you don’t.

Jul 16 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Dive Partners: Why Autonomy and Connection Were Never Actually Opposites

I hear a version of this constantly: “I love my marriage, but I feel like I’m losing myself in it.” And right behind it, from the other side of the same…

Jul 12 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #21 — Choose Connection

When a marriage is hurting, it’s easy to believe that connection is something you either have...

Jul 10 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

June 2026

Compass Issue #20 — Becoming the Partner You Want to Be

When people begin trying to save their marriage, they often focus on changing the relationship.

Jun 30 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

That Attachment Style Quiz Won't Save Your Marriage

… but it might keep you stuck!

Jun 28 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

Compass Issue #19 — Looking Forward Together

It’s difficult to build a better marriage if every conversation is about what has already happened.

Jun 26 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

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