The Connection Compass

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The More You Try, The Worse It Gets — Here's Why...
You already know something is wrong with your approach.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Compass Issue #4 — Ending the Criticism Habit
When a marriage feels strained, criticism often becomes part of everyday conversation.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Compass Issue #3 — Stop The Chaser–Spacer Dynamic
When a marriage feels unstable, one partner often tries harder to fix the relationship.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Compass Issue #2 — Control What You Can Control
When a marriage feels uncertain, many people focus on what their spouse should be doing differently.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Compass Issue #1 — Stabilize Yourself First
When a marriage feels like it’s drifting toward the rocks, the instinct is often to grab the wheel and force the boat in a new direction.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Start Here: The Connection Compass Path
If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance your marriage feels uncertain right now.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD
When You Feel Invisible in Your Own Marriage
There’s a particular kind of loneliness that nobody talks about.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD
The Reason You Started Won’t Be the Reason You Finish
Anyone who is trying to save their marriage is doing it because they have reasons to do it.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD
Can the Scientific Method Save Your Marriage?
It was an odd moment to have a breakthrough thought.
 • Lee H. Baucom, PhD

February 2026

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